No one can ever validate the incredible being you are – but do you know it? Or does external validation still have a hold on you?
We are taught to project externally and seek what we require from other people. We want other people to nurture us, to have our backs, to take care of us and tell us we are beautiful. But often we are not that kindness for ourselves. If you are willing to be everything that you require from other people, then you will create your life as so much greater.
Start by acknowledging you!
You do not need outside validation in order to be who you are. You are more than enough. In fact, you are probably way too much! What is it that you are asking for other people to acknowledge about you, that you haven’t yet?
A little trick of mine is to take a moment to close your eyes and to try to find the outside edges of you. Expand out energetically beyond your body and go out as big as you desire. Notice that the outside edges of you does not stop at your body. You are an infinite being, with infinite choice and infinite possibilities available to you. From this expanded space ask yourself: ‘Would an infinite being truly choose to believe that they are not enough?’
Stop looking for external validation!
If you do not believe that you are enough, then you will always rely on an external source for the validation of your being. If that external source goes away, then what are you left with? We need to be enough for ourselves in our own energy, and then anything we receive externally is just enjoyable – not needed.
When you reintroduce yourself to the idea of having all of you, other people get to contribute. Not from a place of necessity and need, but from a space where you are able to fully receive the gift that they are in your life.
Remind yourself daily – You are enough!
You are worth your own time, space and attention. So start by taking a moment each day to truly acknowledge how incredible you are and that you are enough. Indulge in self-care and be the nurturing energy that you have always craved for yourself. Over time you will develop this gratitude and kindness for yourself that you never thought was possible. You can find my five favorite Rebellious Rituals for 2021 to get you started here.
We get hooked on the validation of others when we do not trust how incredible we truly are. When you are willing to acknowledge that you are enough (or more than enough) and that everything that you seek externally can be found from within you, you get to choose to be the gift you are in this world. This is about the willingness to receive all of you and to create what you desire without needing it to come from someone else.
So… Will you choose it?
Rebellious Rituals are short, easy to do, energetic exercises that take a very frank look at what is going on and allows us to change it. Try a Rebellious Ritual for free (and see me in the shower…)