Getting what you want is such a challenge for SOME people.
Not all people though. Why is it? We actually chose to make it difficult.
Nope no other reason. You are the one that creates your reality. You literally will, everything into your life and experience through your choices (and law of attraction see more here. )
Yes, we can all struggle to be happy (or joyous) and receive what we want but what we don’t realize is that getting what you want does not have to be big deal? Why is this part so difficult or unknown?
Humans love complication – mostly because humans without creative challenge become miserable.
So what better way to be creatively challenged than creating struggles around the things that you more desperately need to get done or really really are lusting after?
So clever! But not in a constructive way so not good enough, not for me or for you.
So here’s the secret … make it simple (you can find creative challenges somewhere else I promise).
How do you do that?
Ask for it!
Wow! I didn’t see that one coming. Asking in a clear and authentic (actually being yourself) way that expresses your desire without manipulation, wheedling, leaving out facts (Women!!!). Or demanding is a strange feeling I agree. However why did we stop actually asking for what we wanted?
The LOOONNNGGG Method or the behavior often used to get what you want. Be tough and fight for it. Be a man! Whine and moan, nag until he does it. Manipulate aka silent treatment. Bully AKA demanding DOES NOT WORK WITHOUT A SIDE EFFECT.
Side effects may or may not include but are not limited to nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, indigestion and abdominal pain.
Just kidding. Real side effects of going the long way to get your desires are:
- damage to relationships
- not getting exactly what you asked for
- bad vibrational energy (kind of like spit in your soup)
- loosing your own power (especially you gals doing the tough man thing)
- Plus making yourself feel bad! (just don’t do it!)
Ok want to try the simple way now? Here is the downlow with my little sex tale
The other day I asked my gorgeous partner four small words quietly over the dinner table “I want to have sex” and what was the response? “Yes!”
Let’s break this tiny tale down
I spoke without demand, manipulation or ego, it was clear because I had a true desire (to have sex!) there was no apprehension about what I was asking, there is no part of the story I left out (Sex is self explanatory) and I got a great response. The desired response too!
Now it doesn’t always work out this way with our requests. So let’s reply our story positively with a negative response:
I asked my boyfriend the same quiet concise clear request: “I want to have sex”. Today the response is “Mmm not right now baby okay?”
That wasn’t hard either way! So why is this still so hard?
We forget that asking is the most important part of getting what you desire. No One knows exactly what you want unless you request it.
So how would this look in real life?
Whenever you want something this is THE most important part:
So here are the guidelines:
- Just the words of your request
- no ego or long way method about whether the request is declined or accepted
- most importantly no techniques for getting a guaranteed response (demanding, wheedling, bribing, negotiating, tone of voice, expression – this all effects your desired outcome)
The biggest issue with achieving desires through communication today is the massive release needed by the ego part of everyone. This is the part that ‘hurts your feelings’. Whenever someone says no. This is because the ego perceives it as a rejection of itself or you and not the decline of your request.
Most of the time if the answer is no, it’s usually never a no directly to yourself but just to the request you were making. You just have to listen carefully. So if you make a simple request without emotional or ego charge it wouldn’t matter so much if it was declined.
My Challenge to you is to ask at least two people desires of yours in this new method so you can see for yourself that it’s really not scary or as horrifyingly embarrassing as you think. It may feel awkward at first but I use it myself everyday and I know it can help you with any dissatisfaction (attention all couples it reduces the number of spats you may have too!)
Psst! I do have Hard Core coaching and programs coming up but these tips are yours for free because I really care that you take action and feel better now rather than having to wait and buy something! So ask the simple way (or have sex )